I’m such a critical thinker. I can find meaning and purpose in nearly every situation and interaction. Since living out of the country, my time for self- reflection has increased immensely.
Recently, I realized that many of us fail to live in the moment. We may dine with friends but spend most of our time on Facebook or Instagram instead of engaging with the person in front of us. I’ve been guilty and I became aware of it by observing others.
I have a friend who never really pays attention to what you say. They rarely make eye contact but occasionally throw in a “um hum” and “ok” to show acknowledgement. They will later swear you didn’t tell them something but they simply didn’t hear you because they were not paying attention. They usually ask “what did you say, I didn’t catch that” and I hate repeating myself.
However, I began to question if I am also guilty of this behavior. Do I really give people my undivided attention? The answer is yes usually however, I could stand to put my phone away and enjoy what’s happening around me more often. This notion has kept me from pulling my camera out and taking 1000 photos in Argentina. I simply can’t enjoy everything behind a camera lens.
Giving a friend my full attention when they engage me in conversation is simply a sign of respect and it’s something I will continue to practice. I’ll likely become mute around those who don’t extend the same courtesy because there is no reason to waste words.